I'm starting something new. Every Monday I will post some tidbit that will **hopefully** spark something in someone!! Look for it every Monday!!
CUT IT OUT
Cutting out *Cutting Remarks* from our family
Purpose: A visual and effective way to discourage inappropriate speech or actions. It can also be used to encourage appropriate behavior.
Give each family member a long fruit rollup or bubblegum tape. Put each persons candy where it is visible and accessible. If Bailey teases Cooper, Cooper is allowed to cut off an inch of Baileys roll and eat it. If Mom swears (never happens!!) Bailey is allowed to cut off an inch of moms roll and eat it, etc. The winner is the person who has the most candy remaining at the end of the day, week, etc.
Additional information: (Visual Aide) Cutting Remarks mormonad found in the 1986 New Era
(Source) "Do what is right" by Douglas and Laurie Wilcox
Easter? Really?!
15 years ago
3 comments:
OK, just my two bits here: I have many, many years of behavior modification experience. This form of human psychology teaches us that ANY behavior can be changed. However, it must be done positively!! This is a stretch for many of us parents. It takes conscience thought for me to quickly run to my kids while playing in their rooms and praise them for how well they're doing. Most of us have a "reaction" to the bad behavior instead (i.e. yelling, threatening, grounding, etc.) While I think some results can come from the cutting out suggestion, it can be more effective to reward good behavior instead of punishing poor behavior. If something is being taken away, you are emphasizing the poor behavior. Taking something like a paper chain (you choose the number of links) for the week and removing a link for each GOOD behavior reinforces that behavior, making it more likely to happen more often. If bad behavior occurs a link can be put back on BUT the opportunity is there for a child (or husband) to redeem themselves whereas, if the week goes by and there is no candy left, the child has been punished instead. If using something like a paper chain, the reward can vary dramatically as well. Where one child may work for candy, another may prefer time with dad, or some other special treat. Remember that we gravitate toward things that bring us joy and happiness. Create the consequences with that in mind. If you’re interested in understanding behavior modification as it applies to your own personal situation, I would be more than happy to help.
Nice idea! We are definitely going to try that one!
I like this idea. When my little one gets older I will have to try this.
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